From ventilator to crown: my story

My name is Danielle Evans and I was a premature baby, born at 26 weeks, weighing a mere 0.837kg (1lb 14oz). I am very honoured to be sharing my story with you. My family have always been very open and honest about my birth and the challenges surrounding giving birth to a premature baby.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you Nurse Kudiwa

My thank you today is for Nurse Kudiwa at the NICU ward at Queens Hospital in Romford, Essex. Kudiwa was one of the first nurses to look after our little girl Sophie who was born at 29 weeks + 1 day in October 2017 and I was reassured from the very first time that I met her that Sophie was in good hands.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you to my husband and family

In September 2016 our little boy Jacob arrived in the world at 32 weeks, less than 12 hours after my waters broke. Prior to this I’d had a normal pregnancy apart from sickness. Right up to two hours before Jacob was born I was told that I wouldn’t go into labour and that any pains I was feeling were due to my body reacting to being without my waters.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you to my employer for supporting parents like me

‘I’m sorry, but you’re having your baby tonight.’ That was the last thing I expected. Hearing the doctor apologetically confirm my labour filled me with dread. This should be one of the most magical (albeit painful) times of your life. Welcoming your first child into the world. Yet the medic’s words propelled me into total self-abandonment. This was a failure. My baby was being let down. I still had 13 weeks to go. This is not how this was meant to happen.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you to the hand-holders

Our son, Zander, arrived in 2014 and was born at 28+2 weeks weighing just 730g (1lb 9oz). As first-time parents, we had absolutely no idea what a rollercoaster ride parenthood (and preemie parenthood at that!) was going to be.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you to all the angels of the neonatal world

The first I knew of World Prematurity Day was when I saw posters about it on the ward of the maternity unit on the day I was admitted to hospital because my waters had broken at 28+5 weeks. At the time, it hadn't crossed my mind that I would be the mum of a preemie because hospital staff were talking about "waiting and seeing" and no way had I considered that I'd be giving birth to a teeny 2lb 10oz (1.19kg) dot just three days later.

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Sarah Miles
Thank you NHS and Royal Bolton Hospital

As World Prematurity Day approaches, I have thought about whether to “publicly” celebrate it this year, mostly because I am worried that people will be bored of hearing about our “journey” and how proud we are. However, almost four years on from having my twins, Ted and Harriet, at 26 weeks, weighing 1lb 14oz (850g), I still believe it’s extremely hard for other people to understand unless they’ve been there.

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Sarah Miles
Remembering Eva: Babyloss Awareness Week and Wave of Light

On Thursday 15 October, at 7pm, thousands of candles will be lit around the world to remember all the babies who have died. As Babyloss Awareness Week culminates in the Global Wave of Light, bereaved parents, friends and family come together to remember. Each flickering flame represents a tiny soul no longer here, a story of hope that ended in pain, a life not lived, enduring love translated as grief.

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Sarah Miles
10 years of the prematurity rollercoaster

My identical twins Thomas and Luke were born at 26 weeks on 12 September 2010 following an unexpected, premature and rapid labour. They were immediately admitted to NICU where every day became full of bradys, desats, medical procedures and seemingly endless worry.

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Sarah Miles
Helping Hugo on his school journey

Hugo was born at the end of August 2015 at 24 weeks’ gestation. He had a rocky start to life, spending seven months in hospital, being ventilated and needing heart and bowel surgery. In the early days we were worried about his survival and long-term prognosis, but once he came home we started to think about his longer-term development.

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Sarah Miles
Louie's story: starting school as a 31-weeker

I gave birth to Louie at 31 weeks’ gestation on 6 August 2016 after a spontaneous labour. It all happened very quickly and was very traumatic, but he arrived into the world weighing 4lb (1.8kg) and stayed in the neonatal unit at Leicester Royal Infirmary and Leicester General Hospital for a total of nine long stressful weeks. He finally came home on 5 October 2016.

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Sarah Miles
Look but Don’t Touch – Life After Neonatal Care

As I prepared to be discharged from hospital with my tiny 30 weeker, I kept getting told by the staff to avoid supermarkets. I was completely baffled – were supermarkets really such an awful breeding ground for germs?! I solemnly promised the consultant that I wouldn’t go near supermarkets until Luca’s due date.

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Sarah Miles
Neonatal Intensive Care – The Cliff Edge

‘Nope. Thanks very much, but I’m alright’. That’s what I said when I was offered a couple more counselling sessions after discharge.  What I was thinking was, ‘Are you kidding?! No way. My 24 weeker is coming home after only 12 weeks in hospital. I’m happy. Everything is perfect. I don’t need this. I don’t need another appointment to go to. I just want to be at home with my baby.’

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Sarah Miles
NICU Loneliness and Guilt – Do They Ever Truly go Away?

When you get pregnant loneliness and overwhelming guilt aren’t emotions that you think you are going to feel. You are filled with dreams and hopes and expectations just like anyone else – you feel part of a community. But when you have a premature baby loneliness and guilt are just some of the many emotions that you feel. 

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Sarah Miles