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My missing trimester

People often speak about the things they miss through premature birth and describe a sense of loss. I grieved for my final trimester for a long time after birth and for all that entailed.

What did you miss? What would you add to our list?

  1. Lost – No time to decorate the nursery
  2. I hadn’t even thought about packing a hospital bag
  3. I didn’t get to finish at work, say goodbye to colleagues or begin my maternity leave properly
  4. Nursery furniture, moses baskets and bedding were all bought online; no time to plan, shop or ‘nest’.
  5. No antenatal classes, no NCT, no mummy friends or support.
  6. I missed getting big
  7. Stretch marks that are missing in places where they should have been
  8. Lost – weeks and months of watching my belly grow, feeling my baby move inside
  9. Maternity clothes, bought but never worn
  10. Preparing for the new arrival, no shopping or meals in the freezer
  11. Lost – my final trimester
  12. No chance to make a birthing plan
  13. Lost – my baby whisked away after birth
  14. Missed – a chance to hold him close
  15. I went home empty armed
  16. I was lost and empty
  17. I grieved for the baby that was no longer with me
  18. No congratulations on your new arrival cards
  19. No new born, first cuddles photos to share
  20. Lost – a chance to be a mummy from day one

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